Translator: Yomna Elhaddad Auditor: Riyad Almubarak I am fat. Wow, I'm fat She is only nineteen years old, what am I doing with my life? Hey! Two likes! that's cool. Do I like this picture? Do you really need more likes? I hope you will be invited to the wedding. Another admiration, awesome! Welcome to the insider chatting while browsing social media. Those Almnajah that many of us go through every day. But we do not think about it, and we do not talk about it.
In fact, many of us are not even aware that it is happening. I'm Bailey Parnell, I will discuss with you the unintended consequences That social media cause your mental health I will show you what stresses you and stresses you every day, What does he do with you? How do you have a better online experience? More than a year ago, My sister and I took a four-day vacation to Jasper, Alberta. It was my first jobless leave in four years. On this vacation I went into darkness. I turned on Airplane mode, no email or social media First day there, I was still suffering from phantom vibration syndrome This is what you are thinking, your phone is locked! And I checked it but it didn't work. I was constantly checking it out I was distracted in the conversation I was seeing these wonderful views of Jasper, My first reaction was to take my phone, Share on social media But, of course, there is no such thing.
The second day was a little easier. You might think I'm silly, But I haven't been offline for over four years It was also a new practical experience. No more than the fourth day passed there, Until finally I felt comfortable without my phone. I was sitting with my sister at the foot of this mountain, literally, When I started thinking to myself: "What are social media doing for me?" "What are you doing to my friends?" It was only four days and this was cause for concern It was stressful and led to withdrawal symptoms.
This is how it was when I started asking questions Since then I started my master's thesis on this subject. I initially worked in social marketing since I was in higher education For most of my professional life. Meaning I worked a lot between 18-24 years old, And it also happened that she was, Most active period on social media. The other thing you should know about me I'm young enough to grow up with social media But I'm old enough to engage in and criticize him In a way I couldn't do it when I was twelve.
My personal, professional and academic life has become represented in social networking sites If she was doing this to me, what would she do with others? And I immediately found that I was not the only one. The Center for Social Mental Health has found that The top three diagnoses on college campuses were anxiety, depression, and anxiety. And many studies in the United States, Canada, and the United Kingdom, among others It linked the high use of social media, High levels of anxiety and depression. But the terrifying thing is that the usage is high Almost everyone I know My friends, family and colleagues 90% of the category between 18-29 years old are present on social media. We spend there an average of two hours a day.
We don't eat even two hours a day. 70% of Canadian people are on social media The voter turnout is not even 70%. Almost anything we do is subject to critical feedback Anything that we spend a lot of time doing has lasting effects on us. So let me introduce you, The four most common causes of stress on social media: If you do not verify it You will be prone to becoming full-blown psychological issues, So without anything, the list is exhausted Number one: highlighting the best events Like in sports, It is a collection of the best and brightest moments.
Social media is where we highlight the best events. It's where we put our accomplishments or look great Or go out with our friends and family But we are grappling with insecurity, Because we are comparing our lives behind the scenes Golden moments for everyone else. We are constantly comparing ourselves to others Yes, this was happening before the emergence of social networking sites, With TV and famous personalities But now this happens all the time and he's directly related to you.
An excellent example occurred to me as I was preparing this talk She's my girlfriend while on vacation: "Byb, nap …" (Laughter) Wait, why can't I afford the vacation? Why am I sitting here in my clothes, watching Netflix? I'd like to go to the beach Here's the thing, I know her well. I know this is out of the ordinary for her. And I know it's literally mired in school business But we're thinking, who would you want to see that? In fact, this is the thing that people want to see.
In fact, when you're doing well showing this, I defeated the second stressful thing on social media. It is number two: social currency. It's like the dollar, a currency we literally use Let's evaluate a good or a service. On social media, these are the likes, comments and shares It became like an image of social currency and on this basis we give things their value. In marketing it is called "the economics of interest." Everything is vying for your attention.
And when you give something admiration or something of that limited interest, Registered process becomes valuable. This is great when you are selling albums or clothes. The problem is with social media, [We are the producer] We give others the opportunity to evaluate us. You know a person, or you are the one who pulled a picture Because she didn't take as many likes as you thought. I'll admit, I was right with you.
We take the product off the shelf because it wasn't selling fast enough, This alters our sense of self. We tie our self-worth to what other people think of us. Then we mark it for all to see. And we become obsessed. We need to have a good selfie and for that, we will take 300 photos to be sure. Then you'll wait for the perfect time to post it We are really obsessed.
We have biological responses when we cannot participate. Which leads me to the third stressor. Number three: .FOMO It's a light phrase and we've thrown it all around. FOMO, or fear of losing your place, is a true social phobia From the fear that you might lose a potential connection Or an occasion or an opportunity. A group of Canadian universities found 7/10 students They said they were going to get rid of their social media accounts If not for fear of being left outside the group. Out of curiosity, how many people are here Who have deactivated or thought about deactivating their account.
Almost everyone. That's the FOMO you feel, your highlights and social currency. All of this is the result of a relatively normal person's experience on social media. But what if going to it every day was a terrible experience? Since you are not only asking for a sense of yourself, But you also ask for your safety ?! Probably the worst cause of stress on social media is number four: Online harassment. 40% of adults online have experienced electronic harassment. And 73% saw it. The unfortunate truth is that this is much worse and much more likely If you are a woman, gay, or because of your color, or a Muslim – I think you understand what I mean. The problem is that in the news we see these huge stories: Tyler Salmenty, 18, He committed suicide after his partner had secretly filmed him kissing another boy And he posted it on Twitter. We see women like Anita Sarkisan who has been near internet shame.
God sent death and rape threats to her feminist posts. We see these stories but it is too late. What about daily harassment online? How about the ugly Snapchat you sent to your friend? With the intention that it is secret, but it is now on Facebook? "So what's in it? It's one picture, that's fun." "One wicked comment is not a problem." But when these little moments happen over and over over time, So we're going to have a big problem.
We have to be aware of these everyday moments as well. Because if we did not verify it and its effects did not appear, We'll get more from Tyler Slimentz. Realizing the effects is not always easy. How many of you have noticed the notification at the top of my screen? How many of you are upset like me that no one has paid him attention? Okay, let me check it out for you, (sigh) Okay! It's just a small example of what this can do for you. Perhaps you simply cannot focus because of your notifications It is out of control and needs to be verified. This need eventually became an addiction. And as far as social media is concerned, we are already facing it Damage similar to material dependency With every liking you get a dose of the happiness chemical, dopamine You get more social currency, so what do you do to feel happy? We check the likes, just one more time.
We are posting, just one more time. We get anxious if we cannot connect to the internet. Doesn't it sound like any drug you've heard of before? Yes! So when it gets older that When your social media usage becomes uncomfortable over time. It's when we see the spiraling rise of anxiety and depression: No. FO, .MO, dispersion, showing key events and comparisons: They are many and they are all the time.
Canadian Association of Mental Health It found students from grades 7-12 who spend two hours a day on social media They acknowledged higher levels of anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts. For those of you who do the math, like the one who is twelve years old. Here's the thing, I really like social media. Hearing what I said today, You might think I'd like you to give it up But I won't. I don't think it will work So I won't waste my time telling you Spend less time on social media Frankly, I don't think his absence is an option anymore.
But this does not mean that you cannot practice it safely. Everything I talked about today He has nothing and everything to do with social media, I mean communication is neither good nor bad. It's just the latest method we use to do what we've always been doing: Tell stories and communicate with each other. You cannot blame Samsung TV for showing a bad show. Twitter cannot get people to post hateful posts. When we speak on the dark face of social media. We really are talking about the dark face of people. The dark face that makes harassers harass Lack of security that causes you to pull a picture I was so eager to share it. That dark face that makes you look at a picture of a happy family and marvel, Why does thy not look like this. This is why as parents, teachers, friends, and bosses This is the dark face we need to focus on. We need strategies for prevention and strategies for coping That's why bad days come to you – Because you're going through this.
When you ask your sense of self, you will not feel inferior, like Tyler Slimante And many others like him. Well, Bailey, how do you see the health of social media? Here's the good news: Realizing a problem is the first step to solving it That is why hearing this talk is that first step in realizing the problem. You know the power of suggestions, When someone tells you something, you start to see it everywhere. This awareness is important. Because you are now higher in lower you will be better at perceiving these effects. If or when he spoke to you. The second thing that you will do is review your diet on social media. In the same way we control what goes into your mouth, Control what goes into your head and heart.
Ask yourself: Does browsing Facebook make you better or worse? How often do you actually check likes? Why am I responding this way to that image? Then ask yourself if you are happy with the results. You might be, and that's okay! But if not, return to step three. Create a better online experience. After my partner did it, He realized that his sense of self was tightly linked to the means of communication, But celebrities in particular remind him of things that he does not own. That's why he unfollowed all brands and all the celebrities. And this worked for him. But it might not be because of celebrities, for you For me I had to clear some people in my diary.
Let me tell you a secret. You do not need to follow your "friends". The truth is that sometimes our friends, Or the people we have on Facebook like the judges They just corrupt the internet! You find yourself in this passive-aggressive war You didn't even know what was going on. Or you are looking at 50 photos from the same scene from the same angle. (Laughter) If you want to follow artists, comedians, or cats, you can do it. The last thing you will do is to emulate good behavior.
Off the internet, we have learned not to bully other kids on the playground. We learned to respect others and treat them as they deserve. We learned not to hit others when they feel bad, Or we relish their fall. Social media is a tool. A tool that can be used for the good of better positive groups, For revolutions, to put an angry cat in Disney movies! (Laughter) The Internet is a strange world. Is social media hurting your mental health? The answer is: not necessarily. It can tear you down, yeah, or it can lift you up, It's where you let go of it better off or you actually laugh out loud. In the end, I have 24 hours a day, If you spend two hours of them on social media, I want my experience to be full of inspiration, laughter and motivation And a lot of angry cats in Disney movies. Thank you. (clap).